Question 1

Are parties really the best way to do it? they sound a bit intimidating.

Accepted Answer

At parties there are plenty of different couples to choose to get to know and you are not stuck talking with one couple all night if you do not click with them. The ice is easy to break as everybody knows why everyone else is there. Nobody is expecting a sexual interaction with you and your partner so there is absolutely no pressure. You get to see what happens before deciding whether it tempts you – and if it does not you still have a pleasant and interesting evening.
Parties are also the highest expression of swinging because of the possibilities for exhibitionism and group sex. Nothing is as spectacular as a group scene at a party because they are exactly how everyone imagines orgies to be.

Question 2

I am a female on my own? I am scared to come on my own.

Accepted Answer

If you are a woman planning to come by yourself but nevertheless feeling a little apprehensive about it, Guilty indulgence Dorset goes that little bit further to reassure you. We have been told the most anxious part is arriving with nobody definite to talk to, we suggest you all single women come an hour earlier so you have company and can meet and greet each other. Even before that, if you wish we can have one of our regular female partygoers ring you up, answer your questions and talk through what to expect. It all helps you at your ease and focus on what you are after.

Question 3

How often are your parties?

Accepted Answer

Our events are irregular because the standard of venue we need is difficult to acquire. Our standard for house parties is extremely high and exceedingly difficult to find. Generally something happens every couple of months.

Question 4

Do you accept single men?

Accepted Answer

YES that’s what makes us different from the rest… Single men are allowed but we ask that you stay on your best behaviour, Single men have a bad reputation and we want to give you the benefit of the doubt. We will have security there should anything get out of hand.

Question 5

Do you accept single women?

Accepted Answer

Yes of course. If you are feeling anxious about coming along maybe bring a friend with you?

Question 6

Do you take women who aren’t into other men?

Accepted Answer

Yes. The female search for sexual experiences with other women is one of the main reasons couples begin swinging.

Question 7

Do we have to do anything at a party?

Accepted Answer

No, it is perfectly acceptable to come to a party and do nothing sexual. Most other couples won’t even notice let alone care. Should someone proposition you a polite refusal will not offend, ‘no means no’ is a golden rule throughout the sexual recreation world. If you’re fully dressed, you are unlikely to be approached for anything other than a friendly chat. This is one of the good things about a party, compared with a 2 on 2 meeting off a contact site – you do not ruin anyone else’s evening if you decide not to put out.
However, Guilty Indulgence is for people with a questing sexuality who are thrilled at the idea of entering into the spirit of the evening, who want and expect they will be tempted to do so. It is not for people who are simply curious about how it might make them feel – that never works. And it certainly is not for people who do not expect to join in and only want an interesting night out. That spoils the vibe and is not fair on the rest of us.

Question 8

Do you take female couples?

Accepted Answer

We take bisexual female couples.

Question 9

Who looks after clothes?

Accepted Answer

You must look after your own stuff. 
If things get hot, it is a really good idea to put your clothes in a pile together and remember where you left them. Otherwise, clothes often come off here and there, even in different rooms. Items then must be hunted down afterwards, which is tense and a bore. Although our events are very select, unfortunately things do occasionally go missing as people can put on the wrong thing in the dark. The solution is a neat pile.

Question 10

Do gross things happen?

Accepted Answer

No, although it depends on your standpoint. Oral and penetrative group sex and group female bisexuality is our standard but this is ‘vanilla’ in swinging terms. Anal sex is less rare than it was, but you wouldn’t notice it unless you were very close to the people concerned anyway. Water sports does occasionally happen (when there are enough bathrooms in the venue) but as it is all behind closed doors it doesn’t affect anyone who doesn’t participate.

Question 11

Can we have sex in private?

Accepted Answer

Yes. All dependant on room availability on the night. We aim to give you an hour (each party) to use the room. This will be monitored.  
You can make love by yourselves, without interference. This is quite common, especially among first timers. It might have to be on the same bed as other people but the action at parties goes in waves and it is perfectly possible to have a bed or even a room to yourselves for a while.
We foster an open, warm inclusive vibe not a competitive, cliquey one. 
After all you can shag anywhere else in the venue.

Question 12

How do we know swinging is for us?

Accepted Answer

We recommend always talking things through properly beforehand. It is better to have a row in the privacy of your own home than in front of everyone else. One option is to agree that you will not do anything the first time you come to a party. That way the ice can be broken more slowly, and the reluctant partner may realise that his or her misgivings are not based on reality.
At Guilty Indulgence we set our bar higher. We want intelligent couples who have thoroughly talked it through beforehand, agreed their boundaries and stick to them. We do not tolerate rows as they spoil the party for other people and those who argue have to leave until they have sorted themselves out

Question 13

Is there dancing at your parties?

Accepted Answer

Absolutely!! We aim to have a DJ at the party…

Question 14

What if my partner wants to leave early?

Accepted Answer

There can be legitimate reasons for a partner to leave early. However, we do expect couples to talk through how swinging will affect their relationship thoroughly before coming to a Guilty Indulgence party. It lets us all down if disagreements emerge at a party and we ask couples who row to leave and finish it.

Question 15

Do you provide anything to eat?

Accepted Answer

Yes, there will be canapes provided.

Question 16

How do I persuade my partner to come?

Accepted Answer

At Guilty Indulgence we are interested in couples who are both sexual adventurers. We are not looking for couples where one partner has been manipulated into giving it a go (and believe it or not, this is as often the guy as it is the girl). For us, swinging is the outward expression of the sexual synch between two people. We feel the right way to go about swinging is to develop that deep sensual bond with your partner and then look for ways of enhancing it. We do not recommend cruising websites and afterwards trying to blag the other half into whatever takes your fancy there.

Question 17

Can we bring some toys with us?

Accepted Answer

Yes. It’s normal to cover toy with a condom before use.

Question 18

Safe sex?

Accepted Answer

This is encouraged and protection will be provided but any unprotected sex is at your own risk!

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